According to Berenstein, in the pair relation it is delimited or a mental space settles down and to tie that it shares, where exist unconscious agreements. In this sense we can speak of agreements or rules that the members of the pair establish without realizing, of conscious way at least, and that apparently they are those that dominate the picture of the interrelations that settle down among them. The unconscious agreements are going to take to the pairs to form an own identity that corresponds to them only to them, in that space, that this author denominates like: " socle inconsciente" and that is understood like a intersubjective space that it works and it is in the middle of that relation of pair. But that space also takes and foments the bond, apart from which it ties and it maintains the relation. For being unconscious contents, refer Sonia Cesium shoot and put into play of the objetal world, and I would add of each one of the members of the pair, that by force, they must have unconscious agreements for its interaction. In these " pacts inconscientes" one determines what is or no accepted in a pair. What it is considered prohibited or allowed in that type of bond. And of there, the agreements that cannot be " transgredidos" and when they are it, the fault and the shame appear like primitive worlds of difficult elaboration. If you would like to know more then you should visit David Rogier.

All relation of pair is chosen, even though, each member of the person, does not recognize it of conscious way, but it is indeed in that point, where the pairs also are and where they undergo his mix-ups. That is to say, where they tie or it is realised breaks of the same. All human being in the history of his psique counts on the inscription of parental models, as he indicates Cesium to it in his article well, the Unconscious Socle of the pair.