This study is part of ampler Project on the beginning of optimum interest of the child, with studies carried through in $fortaleza/Cear and phase of collection of data in Rio De Janeiro, under the most diverse theoretical perspectives. The advent of the movement feminist in the second half of century XX took the quarrels and redefinitions in the relations between men and women, as well as in the familiar structures, the legalization of the divorce is one of the consequncias of this (SCHABBEL, 2005). In Brazil the legalization of the divorce came in 1977, with the promulgation of the law n 6.515. The society occidental person has observed in the last times the increasing number of divorces, what it has reflected in the services of Justice, responsible for leading the processes of separation between couples (RIBEIRO, 2002; SAINTS; FONSECA, 2003).

The separation process is well complex, Wound-Sheep (2003) reflects that in the movement to join it another one, the conjugal pair passes for a process of internal modification and organization, in special as for the identitrios elements of these citizens. Thus, during the separation, the conjugal identity, constructed throughout the marriage, goes if undoing, what it demands of the spouses the search for a redefinition of its individual identities. Still according to author, the couples if do not separate for not believing more the marriage, for disqualify it, but yes for it values it in such a way that they do not obtain to accept that the conjugal relation more does not correspond to its expectations. Inside of this complexity, the conjugal separation can consist as an event of the Cycle of Life of the Families, that can bring significant changes in the relations between dade conjugal, between the parents and the children, of these with the parents and between dade conjugal, while parents (RIBEIRO, 2010). This type of separation is ampler of what the legal separation, the divorce, therefore it implies in the interruption of the marital relation, of the exchange of affection, of conjugal privacy and also of the sexual relation (SAINTS, 2010).